FEATURED: The Psychology of Adults Who Are Controlled by a Parent
by
Dr. Lynn Margolies
The Psychology of Adults Who Are Controlled by a Parent. When childhood dynamics play out in
adulthood, the spouse can get roped in.Conflict over competing loyalties is a dysfunctional family
dynamic with men who haven't psychologically separated from their mothers. To have a secure
adult relationship, a developmental transition has to occur in which the spouse replaces the
mom as the primary attachment. Childhood emotional manipulation can create psychological
vulnerability that affects adult romantic attachments.
Check out my Psychology Today post for the answers. (Click below):https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/therapy-insider/202208/the-psychology-adults-who-are-controlled-parent"title= https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/therapy-insider/202208/the-psychology-adults-who-are-controlled-parent"
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"When we interact as adults with our
parents, childhood family dynamics are readily re-experienced and re-enacted, with spouses
getting pulled into the mix and creating conflict. A particularly toxic dynamic involving competing
loyalties plays out with certain men and their moms, wreaking havoc in their marriages and
interfering with "launching" as men within a mature new attachment relationship. How the scene
unfolds and the effects depend on the degree of psychological “differentiation” achieved by the
man from his mom and whether he has created secure boundaries around his marriage and
new family, aligning himself with his spouse, not his mom. | Dr. Lynn Margolies
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